What Pickup is
If you know about it, you will surely have understood the purpose of the blog, but for someone who does not know what Pickup or self-improvement is, let’s first see what Pickup is.
With “Pickup” we referring to the technique where a man approaches random women for meeting them or have a relationship/sex with her. Pickup (Pickup Artist or PUA) uses various proven techniques to reduce a woman’s defenses and thus achieve his goal.
Be aware, however, that this blog, unlike other similar blogs (or forums), works differently. I do not follow the classic PUA or community dating or even magazine/friends/women advises, but I follow my own views, which come out of my own experiences. So I can have a better understanding on what works and what not.
This helps me to understand if something worked for me on chance and of course, it will not work for anybody or if something works to anyone. Thus, this opens my eyes so I can understand if something a PUA says is true and legit or not. So in a few words, what you will read here, I guarantee you that it has been tested a few times before I write it.
You will notice that it is generally referred to (and I mention it) as a “community”. The community it’s created by people who call themselves “Pickup Artists” or PUA’s for short. Also this group is referred to as “Seduction Community” or “Dating Community” .
There are dozens of books about this topic, and there are also DVDs and the necessary seminars organized by some companies. There are also dozens of forums where everyone can talk with others involved in the same sport (especially if your friends do not want to hear about this), exchange opinions and experiences and meet with other people in order to try these techniques toghether.
The first thing a newbie in this community has to understand is that learning Pickup is a process that takes time. You are about to begin to get some skills, and only after some time in the “field” you will be able to do it with comfort and have enjoyable meetings with women.
Many young people get into the game with the idea of learning a line and/or a technique so they can pickup easily any woman they want, and that is, they do not have to do anything else. This idea is also a recipe for the disaster, since things are not like that at all. To learn a technique, you have to try it in the field so that you start to make it your second self. Imagine reading techniques for kick boxing and then want to pick up a fight with a champion. This is how to learn the “game” or to become better at it, it takes time to learn about it like any other type of sport.
There are also many people who want to attract only a girl they know and so they want a shortcut method to do it. Here I say that they still have to learn some basic things that make a man stand out from the crowd and in order to win a woman you like, you should first be able to attract other women as well.
The hardest point is to have the courage to go out and approach random women, especially the very beautiful women, and eventually get to know them, especially if this is your first time. The most likely thing is to get a negative reaction and get discouraged and think that you do not want to approach another woman again. You may receive some negative reaction and then decide that this is not for you.
What you need to do is to concentrate on improving yourself. Get out as often as you can, either with a friend or alone and focus on learning the game. Make it a habit to read something and then to go out and try it. Even if you are experienced, focus on your improvement. You can not control the behavior of others towards you and you should not worry about it.
Be patient. Do not wait in just a few days to start doing something you do not have done before.