Clubbing. The absolute target of our teenage Saturday nights -and not only. I remember when we were waiting for Saturday to come to go to the big clubs where our main goal was of course to pickup women.
We were buying the must-have clothes of the time (eg Levi’s 501) and a good blouse and of course the necessary jellies and cologne (usually snatched by those who had bigger brothers and they were sharing with the rest of us -don’t look at today, 90s were the best time for friendships too) and we were going out for what else, women.
The clubs have “extinguished” the old good discos and in turn they were the places where you could meet your dream woman. Usually women prevailed over men, something pushed by the staff from these clubs. I believe that the staff were trying (and keep trying) to keep a good proportion of men-women so there are more women inside (with the most beautiful of course being at the hot spots of each club) so men keep staying in the club drinking (because as it is known, the drink eliminates every social phobia) but also buying drinks for women. If you are old enough, you may remember the face control from the club on Saturday nights.
An era without duck-faces, stupid-phones and miserable selfies to show to the others that we are having fun (the “fake” fun of today).
Going to a club was the absolute way to meet a woman. Although there has always been the fear of approaching, all you needed was a push from a friend, a relatively good appearance (if you watch any old school Pickup Master, you will notice that they always watch their outfits and of course their hairs) and sometimes some dancing skills.
Game was relatively straightforward, mainly because the chicks were going there for the same purpose, but also because there was no internet (and many of today’s activities) to have opportunities to meet other people. And guess what, they did not needed any PUA stuff and pseudo-Alpha male techniques to f*ck or get to know a woman, the people used to meet each other all the time. So, honor to the old dudes, who they had to do it without the help of any instructor and book, while having to deal with yesterday’s social situations.
Lately the scene has begun to change. What I have noticed is whether men are more than women in the clubs/bars, or that there are groups with a lot of people. And I’m not talking about big sets of women, but mixed groups where there are and some men too (irrelevant, friends or boyfriends), making the approach more difficult, especially to people who are not used to approach mixed sets.
On the one hand, the economic crisis is certainly a cause, where a lot of people can’t withstand going out anymore (and they can’t withstand even more in the years to come, as the real financial crisis is yet to come) and they are unable to give money to go to a club or bar for drinks (plus the taxi or other additional costs that goes along with a Saturday night).
On the other hand, the internet and other social places, as for instance there are many people who prefer to gather together in the house and have fun over there, instead going out (there are many people who likes staying in on Saturday night).
I’m sure that the biggest and most “in” club of the coming years will be the Facebook, where groups of people will connecting online at nights, “partying” and… sharing fake news, while making use of likes and other emoji reactions FB added recently, to keep stimulating the interest of its zombie users (yes, zombies, as an experiment correlates the Facebook addiction with cocaine). Let’s FB-arty baby.
In this problem of the few women in clubs, there are other problems that I will discuss below.
-For example, the women working for the bar/club and they are sitting close to the entrance on purpose so the unsuspecting customer thinks they are customers too and there is interesting. Many times they happen to be waitresses or bartenders of these bars and going there with their friends to make the bar seems as having many customers.
-The staff who are suspicious of the “game”, where their eye constantly looking on men for “suspicious” movements and can make you feel ashamed in order to “save” the innocent girl from your… nails. Many of them are betas and they are interested in some of these girls you approached, hoping in this way the girls will like them. When that happens, you will see them sitting by the hours at the “victim’s” table, and maybe they will even buy them drinks, hoping of course to “reward” them for their… bravery.
-Her -usually ugly- friends, who are few and encircle her like the queen in the chess. If they realize that you are trying to pickup their queen and you have not received the OK from her, they will get in the middle. This has been always happen, but it does not stop being a problem, especially if you are in your first steps of the game. Of course this is not always the case, sometimes the friends of a girls i approach give me room when they see that she is interested too.
-The smarter-than-her phone, which keeps the girls busy all the time and they haven’t time to play the eye-game with no one. You can approach them completely cold, but you are in danger of being a loser because they will misinterpret your intentions (they are often take it unkindly and can say “can’t you see that I’m talking/busy“?). In this part, the two “cases” from above will come to “save” her.
-Some girls (mostly under the age of 24) where they like to make fun of men. They usually do it when they are approached by someone who has not strong game or with big age difference, while others do it with satisfaction (I have heard it).
-The increasing number of people who are out for “Game”. I’m not saying that it’s bad, what I’m saying is that in the hot clubs, where many beautiful women are there, you can see a lot of men trying to pick them up (relative or unrelated to Pickup). This causes competition and don’t get confused if you see a nice woman having approached 2-3 times as long as you are there. Of those who approach girls, most do not know how to talk/behave, so they make girls mistreat any other men who approach them, no matter what level of game he has.
This increasing number of men who want to pick up women, causes some other problems in “night game”, because it makes bar/club staff more suspicious and causes them to have their eyes open (as i said above). They do this for two reasons (in my opinion), first because they do not want girls to be bothered by men, with the fear of not coming back again and secondly they are more interested in buy them first a few shots and then approach them, than going to cold approach them.
But is not only that. Let’s say a new club opens (with the name “Club” for example and of course if I was Apple I would trademark it as my own name and then I would sue anyone else who has a “club”). In the beginning it will be full of women, until it spreads to men that this club has plenty of fish and begins to fill up with a lot of men too.
So women will move from this club and never come back (because the club has been “messed up”, as a girl told me when I asked her about), so the club will slowly turns into a… military camp. So, after that, the owner can only organize various events to keep the interest alive (in a nutshell, gathering women, because truth be told, a good club is a club with lots of women).
A video i found and shows the fun of those days. Besides the right proportions between men and women, the people back then were going out to have fun, something that does not apply for today (much has changed in our lives, that’s for sure).
I’m not saying that this type of game is “over” and that you have to take it out of your choices, but there is going slowly (and i am talking about the few selections of girls and not about a comparison on “night VS day” game). Surely it will be the choice of those who want to go out and dancing (although the salpa parties will take the most people in the future and is few years no one will want to go to clubs), but the night is changing, maybe slowly but is changing. See also the rise of other alternative ways of entertainment. And the increase in those who are into Day, Social and Online Game confirms that (although not always for this purpose).
Without affected by the appearance of the sexy girls, notice a difference of the above video with this. What i wrote few lines above? Yes, yes, “events to keep the interest of a club”. If there were 10 girls for every man in the clubs, surely events like these would not be very fashionable.
The first time I noticed this was in a couple of big clubs in Halkidiki (GR) a few years ago, where despite the countless people in the clubs, there were not many women and, of course, something I saw and in other big cities in Europe too. Note that I can not be in all the major clubs in Europe at the same time to count people and maybe you didn’t noticed it yet in your city but you will see it in a few years (or sooner).
I believe that the good game will be played more in the VIP parts of the big clubs (ie the hottest girls will be there) while the rest of the men will “fighting” at the rest of the club looking for good targets. Also great importance will be given to the style/appearance of men and certainly to his game. Since men are more than women in clubs today (see the pictures below), competition is certainly growing. So surely just a beard will not bring you at the top of the men and will be required to be in style and have strong game in order to be successful with women.
Closing this article, I’ve added some random photos I found after a Google search. They added here to show the great difference between men and women in European nightclubs. As you can see, men are a lot more than women.