The game is changing due to the social media revolution.
The power of social media will be so strong, that your Facebook page will be you identity, women will asking your FB page not only to see if you are the person who are saying you are, but to see with few click your story, where you are living, the people you know, past girlfriends, your hobbies and so many information that people give without hesitation (and after that, they are worried about their Personal Data Protection).
However, online dating is the most popular way to meet a girl you like. But many PUAs who trying to sell you their shitty products, will tell you that the only thing that matters is your personality and your profile, so you have to buy their product in order to learn how to put your photos, so you can get many chicks.
Ok, we are believing you…
But i like to write the truth and today we will see what the biggest online dating site has to say. And for many of us, the results may be disappointed.
But we must hear all the opinions, so let’s see what PUAs has to say about this. I choose BravoPua’s video (among many of them), because is long and he is saying about everything on online dating. Otherwise, here you can watch Todd’s video too.
Let’s start with your profile, which should be (as the most PUAs are saying) the most important step and you have to put something clever there, that says a little and means a lot. However, your profile has nothing to do with attraction. As Christian Rudder (Co-founder of OkCupid) says: According to our customers, ‘appearance’ and ‘personality’ is the same thing. So, your picture is worth a thousand words, while your actual words (on your profile) are worth almost nothing“.
Of course a profile full of good pictures wins in association with an empty profile. For instance, in another experiment, OkCupid’s analysts concluded that when the photos showed something interested, like a man holding a musical instrument or an animal, had more response. Also, profiles with photos where a man was muscular or he didn’t wearing a blouse (and he was in a good shape), had the most answers, as you can see in the photo below.
So and according to OkCupid’s data, appearance plays a significant role in online gaming and is the reason for the most women to answer or not. Neither your profiles or the photos from various places, to show that you are an adventurous guy, or the photos with other guys drinking can help you online.
In the photo below, from another experiment (in this article i’m taking data from more than one experiments), you can see that the appearance for a man (and for a woman, of course) plays a significant role for the conversation (and for her’s first answer).
To confirm that, OkCupid’s analysts did another experiment. They removed every photo from their app for 7 hours and they watched the user’s behavior. After that, they concluded that when there was no photo, women responded on the first messages, something that changed when the photos came back.
This shows that when there was a mystery about someone, because there were not a photo of him, women responded immediately (hoped for something good, i think). Indeed, the analyst said that the site worked better (or like it should be, in my opinion) when there were no member’s photos, as you can see in the image below.
I wrote about online game and how make women hard to fall in the day-or-night-game, because now we have a lot of competition, where anyone who has good genes (or luck), can send them pictures from his body, money, d*ck and everything else he believes that has as an advantage. And even i didn’t had these data in the previous post, these findings can prove my thoughts about this.
In a similar experiment, OkCupid created 10 fake accounts. The two of the most beautiful women got 581% more messages that all the other women combined. And what are PUAs saying? That they can teach you to be distinct from the other men? Yeah, get in the line.
As i wrote before, even if you show to a woman that you are the MAN, she already had tones of messages from other men to choose from. As you can see in the photo below, the beautiful women get tones of messages and this proves something i am writing a lot, that women are these who are selecting and not the man (“OMG, he said that i am very cute and he wants to f*ck me, he is the 300st for today, i can’t decide someone for today“).
So, a man who chooses every woman he wants and the women fall in his legs to select them, is just a myth (or not go for everyone but for a very few men). Also, in the previous study (previous link) they are saying that men have a huge competition online.
In the photo above, you can see that in relation with men, women are receiving more messages. From the men, the most attractive was this who got a bunch of messages. But the others got nothing. This proved and from another study (this is the last, i promise) where the women who message first on OKCupid, are getting the more dates and, “The women are also uniformly messaging the site’s hottest dudes, as judged by user standards“.
So this “appearance is not important“, at least online (i will write and for the other types of gaming) and with a “magical” system, PUAs can get you more attractive to women, is just a myth.
Sure, in a real life approach, a good game can reduce -somehow- a bad appearance. For example, women complains a lot about the men who approach them, that they are unattractive but with a lot of confidence, but without moving thing better the confidence along. I believe that a good game is something like a scale, you have to put more from one thing, to balance with something you don’t have (eg, a very good game for a bad appearance), but for online game, especially in apps like Tinder, where your face is the showcase and it takes just a move to pass you, things are more different and of course, more difficult.
And because all of these are just studies behind a PC and you can say that in real life, things are much different, here is another photo from a guy with a good appearance (click to view in full size). You can see that with a good appearance, you can say (and do, in face to face situations) anything you want, without fearing to tag you as “weirdo”.
So, if you have good appearance, is more easy for you to have success online. And this is a problem for most new guys in the PU community. You can see an attractive guy having success with a woman on the streets, in clubs or online and you believe that it was due to his game, but maybe this success was due to his appearance and appearance only.
If you are a not-so-attractive guy, to try pickup girls online is like going to war with rocks. Sure, there are a few tricks to “open” and talk with her, but this is a subject for another port.
[Source for photos: OkCupid, unless otherwise noted]