Whether you’re a “community” rat (meaning that you’re into Pickup), or you just want to go out and meet some girls, what matters to you is to find a friend to get along. And there were times that you wanted to go in some events, let’s say a party, but you avoided it simply because you didn’t have a friend to go with.
This wingman/friend issue is something that has bothered me since the beginning of my game, and I have often tried the ‘lonely road’, which it was more like a solution of despair, not something I wanted to. But sometimes playing alone is better than having a company.
Because let’s face it, there may be countless discussions at the forums on the subject of seduction and what standing with the Game, but the game is played out with women and friends and definitely many men avoid starting something simply because they do not have friends, that’s why at many forums there are special categories for people trying to find wingmen.
What exactly is a wingman? A wingman is a lot of things. For example, is your company in a bar, because you might be afraid to go alone (and maybe it is also the main reason you are looking for a wingman). Is the friend who will support you in some “madness” of yours, the eye that will observe and tell you your mistakes, but also he who observe the signs of a girl and will inform you about. Is the hand that will push you when you are afraid to approach a girl, he who can keep company to your target’s friends, so you can have more time with her. A wingman should be your tool and you must be his tool.
But what else is a wingman? We have seen his positives, let’s see the negatives of a wingman. Is he who always keeps telling you that this bar does not have good “sets” and wants to go elsewhere, is the cheap that will not want to pay for an event you want to go. Is he who does not talk about anything else than PUA and that makes you wonder if he wants you for your company or he is with you because he needs you to go out with.
Is the uncool who does not want to go to bars and clubs, is the hideous who makes women to want to hide when he talks to them and of course, this can hurt your reputation, and is the “hungry” guy, who looks from afar that he is looking to ‘score’ and “activates the alarm” of women but also is he who can have a better game than you (or be more attractive) so he can get your sets and many more.
The truth is that you do not need a wingman. You approach a woman alone, you talk and game her alone, you kiss her alone and you have sex with her alone. A wingman can be your company until you go to a bar, but you will be on your own when you approach someone. Having a person with you can sometimes hurt you.
If you have learn with a wingman, you will find it difficult to go out alone and definitely requires a lot of effort to go out on your own. Especially in the morning (ie day game), having a wingman with you makes no sense, because you do not need a wingman, and it doesn’t seem good to be 2-3 guys on the streets and approach women. Having someone with you, can sometimes extract you of your game and you will not be able to keep continue with a woman, because you may thinking that you have and someone else with you, especially if you are with a common vehicle.
You can go to a dance party on your own, or in some cases, you do not have to be with someone else, especially if it’s something that he does not care about and he’ll soon be bored, asking you to leave. Now to go in bar or club alone it’s definitely more difficult, unless you pick out bars that are having a lot of people inside, and so you can be invisible to them. And if you do not want to go to a club/bar, while you don’t have any person to go out along, then you can ‘play’ either online or at day game, or you can go to various parties and events and you’ll soon see that being alone can be good.
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