By beginning my trip to this community, the only thing that impressed me from the beginning, was the “Alpha Male” term. As Alpha males, meaning the top of the men, the “clique” of the males, the ones who have what they want, they do jobs that they like and, of course, they have other – the lower ones – to give them orders, while of course there are men who wanting to be with them, or women where even a simple glimpse from them is enough.
I was impressed with everything I read that I could also have if I became an alpha male (and if I bought their next product that would give me even more information to get even better), I watched so many videos with actors showed a manly acting and I was saying “This is what i wanna be”.
But seeing things better while I was watching and watching other self-improvement games, I realized that the one who is struggling to become “ALPHA” (the caps on purpose) has no different from the Facebook’s like wh0res or the so many Youtube betas who are willing to do anything they can, for the likes and views.
Struggling with yourself to become better, something that is often out of your reality, makes you socially anxious. You start by not being interested in your friend, because it might be betas and looking to hang out with other alphas. By the time and as your need for recognition grows up, you are looking at whether the people you are chatting with are “above” or “below” than you and act appropriately, trying to put them down, “AMOGing” them so you can feel better.
By constantly thinking about becoming an alpha male, you become paranoid, as paranoid are the little girls with the tiny mind who are increasingly struggling to become perfect to take the most likes on FB.
In every situation you will see enemies everywhere, people who want to “amog” you and they want to reduce your status. This is how you enter into an endless battle, where you have to win, and alas if someone will try to put you down in front of a women, it will make you feel bad for a long time.
You will try to “Amog” Even your friends, in order to please your selfishness. The more you feel an alpha, the more you will try to keep your throne, and as a result you will have fewer friends, and if you decide to become “BadBoy” then no one will talk to you.
We are living in a society where everything depends on the recognition of the other. We work to buy things we do not need, to hang out with people we do not like, to go to places we do not want, but those places are must, so we have to go too, and finally to impress people we do not know or care about us. From the shopping of expensive mobiles, fake-full-on-steroids body-builders, Facebook photos with fake fun, everything has to do with our image on others, and the “Alpha” label is not something different.
The term “alpha male” is also a trap. As we persuaded to work to gain more and more things, as they convinced us that we must become something we are NOT, whether we want it or not. The result; At the end, the … alpha hanging out only with people who can manage and manipulate and not with those who are real men and difficult to manipulate.
I do not care about them. In fact, I was rarely interested in hanging a badge on me. The respect you want to have in your face is like trust, you have to win it and you can not pressure someone to accept you as an “Alpha” male. I certainly mention many times and I will mention the term “Alpha Male” in the future, but this is for other reasons.
I do not care if I come up with someone and see me as “Alpha,” nor do I care when I meet new people looking for the game, to “Amog” them to show to them that i am something, but I behave as I know them for years. Those who are anxious about how others will see them are also those who are desperate for recognition, who have never had it and try to win it to raise their selfishness and do not differ from the FB likes wh0res.
As long as you think you are good enough on something, there will always be someone else who will be better than you in the same thing. Do not look desperately to touch the top somewhere, it’s a waste of time. I’m not saying that you do not need to change a lot of things on you, you should definitely change them if you do not like them. Do not fall into the trap that women only wants alpha males and guys like Cristian Gray’s fifty shades of gray, if you let go your first enthusiasm and think it better, you’ll see that many “Betas” are either in relation or already married and have a good time and a lot of friends.
He must be a man, a masculine man. To looking at you and by his look to understand that you have to shut up. ~ D. Alexandraki
Just relax. To have a good time doesn’t measured by how much alpha male you are, how much “amog” you have given this dat and how many times you showed to people that you are a masculine man. Women are not like soldiers, where they are obey on orders. You can transform yourself from beta to a masculine man, if you try, but you will not be able to do it if you are anxious about it.
If you are a truly masculine male and not a “beta” who trying to hide behind some techniques, women will understand it (and believe me, they can smell the fear on women a man has) and they will respect you by themselves, it’s in their DNA. This has to do with other men too, they will respect you on their own, without having to do anything on your part or to “push” them to. When you see this happening, people to be respectful of you, then it means that something has changed on you and it is not some ridiculous PUA techniques that have done this.