When you walk up to girl do not start the conversation by saying “my name is, blah, blah, what is yours”. Sometimes that is way too personal to begin with. You can ask a question relative to your surroundings that are impersonal.
Then based on the reply you get to move on from there. An example would be, what time does this show end? Or, do you know the name of this song? By the way never start with the question, “Do you come here often”? That is the crappiest line ever. I know that sometimes you stuck and this line is the first that comes to your mind, but avoid asking this question in the future.
In some cases you may want to inject a little humor. Girls love to have a laugh especially when they are out winding down from a tough day. They like a guy who is spontaneous and who can start a conversation without immediately asking personal questions. I wrote about it in previous posts, women don’t like when people asking personal questions to them, if first they don’t have a bit of rapport between.
So firstly the key to getting results starts with not being personal. Secondly maybe poke a little fun at yourself. Get them to relax and most importantly relax yourself.
Your goal is to build rapport. When you build rapport girls will become comfortable around you and as a result you can start to get a feel of where they are coming from and find opening wedges for conversation.
You need to learn the fundamentals and build on your successes. Once you get the fundamentals right you can then get a little more advanced. The truth is this you will need to get comfortable with talking with strangers.
I know that this is tough at first but as you do it more it begins to get easier. So when you are out and you want to get to know a girl, first look look for things that are going on around you that you can talk about especially if they will spark enthusiastic conversation. This will get you results without getting shot down. But remember some girls don’t like to talk to strangers at all, so don’t cry if this won’t work at first, you have to try it a few times.