When I was starting to learn how to be better with women, I started learning routines, stories, openers, negs and more, memorizing ready stories and routines (aka canned material). Something that hundreds of people in this community do.
But as I was getting better, I realized one thing, that it’s useless to use all these material. It will lead you nowhere.
That’s why when I read in forums that someone has success by using a certain story or routine and recommend to others to say the same, I doubt if he even managed to get over his approach anxiety.
In this blog I am writing about the natural game. The same game that your friend, your cousin and even your father used to date women. Do you think that they all used some kind of canned story to meet a woman? I don’t think so.
Just remember that woman is not like an “on-off” switch, but they need their time to feel attracted to a man.
The system most people use is as follows:
-They start with the idea that he should somehow ‘game’ a woman.
-They approach a woman with an opener to turn her attention upon them, but to show that they are different.
-They have the idea that as they approach her, she has more value than them so:
-They tell a – fake – story so they can raise their value.
-They continue telling stories in order to attract their target and receive the signs of interest. (IOIs)
-After that, they try to make her to raise her value (because their tricks already lowered it) by telling stories about herself and reward her after that (this is not bad though).
-They isolate her and continue from there (this is not bad also).
Of course this method is not always the best and some bad things can happen.
-A guy approaches a girl with a good opener and go directly to a DHV story.
-The target responds positively.
-The guy believes that he must raise her attraction to him. So, he decides to tell another story about her ex.
-The target responds positively again.
-The guy stops for a moment and think what to do next.
-He decides to go into rapport and so begins to ask some questions, which he memorized before.
-He asks different questions about her, without any continuity between questions (something like a career interview).
-He stops and think what to do next. He decides that he has to work a bit more in order to see more signs of interest (IOI), before he continue.
-The target is now boring and she understands that this guy has not confident and he was fake from the beginning.
-The target says the guy to leave.
-The guy decides to make phone close.
-The target does not give him her number, instead saying to him that she has a boyfriend (or she gives him her number, but she never responds aka is ‘flake’).
You can ask why I am saying this. We have read so many successful field reports using these techniques. You don’t have to do this type of approach or to memorize thousands of pickup lines. You just approach any girl you like and talk to her, like so many men did years ago. So simple.
Later I will write some other posts about some things you can do in order to raise your lever and your confidence and you will see a tremendous difference over you, as I saw on myself.