How to approach a girl in public

After several trials and errors, I am sharing my advice on how to approach a girl and how to talk with her, in direct and natural way without routines, false time constraint and any other wasteful technique.

First, you have to be ready and you should know about a manly body language and a good dress style.

[The following method works for me. Of course, sometimes I am using Mystery Method].

So, you see a woman you like, sitting with her friend(s). You need to approach them before they see you. That means if you are going to need some time to think about it, do it somewhere else, where they can’t see you hesitating.

Approach them from their front. Avoid to approach them from any of their side, where they can’t see you approaching, because you will get a bad impression. Before you are get closer to them, smile and look at them in the eyes. With this, they will understand what are you going to do and your smile will calm them.

Go straight to your target and say to her that you like her and want to get to know her (or she looks like an interest person and you want to say a hello).

Introduce yourself with her and immediately ask for her friend. You can say something “Is she your friend?” and introduce yourself with her.

Immediately give a sincere compliment to her friend, you need her to your side. Do this by telling her that she is wearing something nice or she has a sense of fashion, etc. She will like it (especially if she is a woman who is not getting a lot of attention from men) and she will like you, so she will let you talk to her friend, without block you.

Do not ask the same things in both girls. You should work with your target. If you are asking the same questions to her friend, your target may think that you are a player, or you like her friend or even you don’t have something else to say.

If you do it right, she will finds you attractive. Your next step is to set a qualifying frame, by asking her some personal questions. Without attraction, girls do not answer personal questions to strangers, so you have to win her first.

The conversation with girls is very easy. To help you with, women give you anything you need to start and continue the conversation. You have to listen what she is saying and choose words for further discussion. This makes you look sincere and helps building a deeper connection with her. For example, if she saying something about her “neighborhood”, ask her more about the neighborhood she grew up, if she saying about “dogs”, ask her if she has a pet or what pet she likes.

You can build more connection with her, if you both have some common things. If she likes you, you can say something like “Really? Wait a minute, we have to stop talking because I will fall in love with you. I also enjoy this or that“.

Note that you should continue to talk about “this” and “that”, in order to take her mind from “I’m falling in love” part and the shields women have on such things with strangers, so she will not thinking about these, because then she will put a “shield” in front of you.

If you build enough rapport, then you can take her number or ask her if she is going to somewhere else. The number you will take will not be a “flake”, because you had a genuine connection with her.

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